This Rumi quote is one of my favourites: ‘Live life as if everything is rigged in your favour’. How would things change if you really believed this was true? I notice how much I suffer when I believe that something shouldn’t be happening. When I resist what is and fight against it. How I feel like a victim, and how this in turn makes me feel small, weak and powerless. When I can believe instead that it’s all happening for me and not to me, even if I don’t understand why, everything feels better. I have a new lightness of …Continue reading»
Unconditional love
Too often we place conditions on the love we have for others. We try to get love, believing we don’t have enough already. We look for other people or things to make us feel a certain way, when we haven’t been able to do that for ourselves. It sometimes doesn’t even occur to us that we could do it for ourselves. Real love is about giving and not getting. It’s about what we can give and what we can share, with no conditions attached. Real love frees – both you and the other person. We need to learn how to …Continue reading»
It’s ok not to be ok
It’s ok not to be ok. It’s ok to fall apart. It’s ok to let others in, to lean on them, to ask for support and to be vulnerable. Give yourself time to recover. Give yourself time to grieve. Give yourself all the time you need, for anything and everything that matters most. The fastest way to feel better is to accept it when you’re feeling bad and not resist it. It’s ok not to be ok. It’s only natural to resist feeling bad. It’s uncomfortable. We want to move on and fix whatever is causing us pain or discomfort. …Continue reading»
White space
Long story short I managed to lose a whole batch of blog posts this morning. The one for today and others I’d written when I was inspired. Gone and no way to retrieve them despite my best efforts. My own fault. Gutted. Lesson learned! When you’ve got nothing left, say it. Sometimes things go wrong. And sometimes you just have to say f*** it! I was going to try and rewrite today’s post but knew I’d lost the essence of it, the feeling. Hopefully it’ll circle back around in another form when the time is right, but for today it …Continue reading»
Winter and loving the seasons
I’ve always enjoyed spring and the feeling of new beginnings. I love the change of the seasons, summer nights, warmth and the vibrant colours of autumn. But in the past I’ve found winter harder to embrace. It can feel pretty gloomy at times, with the nights drawing in and the damp, wild weather. We complain of it being depressing, of having little energy or motivation to do things. But I’ve realised that’s the idea! Winter is a time when we can turn our energies inwards. Rather than spreading them outwards as we might do in spring or summer. It’s a …Continue reading»
Be here now
It can be so tempting to try and anticipate the future. We can spend so much time in our heads worrying, imagining things that may or may not come and trying to figure out the best way to go. But we can’t live for tomorrow. We have to live for today. We can’t possibly know the future. So we’re wasting our time trying to work out what we might want and feel then. It’s impossible! We can only follow what feels right in the moment. You can’t have regrets if you know that you always followed what felt right at …Continue reading»
Dance it out
Move your body in ways that feel good, always. Let loose. Dance around the living room. Go for a run. Walk. Stretch. Shake your body. Our bodies are designed to move. Move yours. Generate some energy. Live a little. Shake it out. Skip. Jump around. Get the blood flowing. Dance. Move. Go to a private space right now, even if it has to be the toilet at work and shake it out! Get the energy flowing. Put your favourite music on at home. Sing at the top of your voice. Dance it out. Free up any stale or stagnant energy …Continue reading»
Trust
Why do we feel the need to control everything? Ourselves, our plans, other people, the way things turn out. We try to control things to prevent anxiety and to make ourselves feel safe. But control of the outside world is an illusion. It’s exhausting. And it’s never ending. The degree to which we try to control is the degree to which we don’t trust. But it’s actually often safer to let go, than it is to cling on – attempting to control. Notice the tension in your body when you’re trying to control things. And notice the relaxation when you …Continue reading»
Taking the pressure off
What feels good? Light, and free? Go there. Stop doing things in ways that don’t. Release the pressure. Who are you doing these things for? We can be so hard on ourselves and have such high expectations. But life is too short to be piling the pressure on. To be stressing ourselves out unnecessarily. Where might you doing that? Try to stop and notice so you can make another choice. When you’re piling the pressure on you’re doing things unconsciously. You’re squeezing the joy out of life and living only in your head. What might your body be asking for …Continue reading»
Staying in your own lane
It’s so easy to get caught up in what we think we should be doing. In what’s ‘normal’ or expected. It’s so easy to think we’re lagging behind, left out or not as successful or fulfilled as others. When we compare we lose confidence and can start to panic. We start thinking maybe something is wrong with us or that we’re not where we’re meant to be. We can become really confused and paralysed by comparison. It’s great to see what other people are doing and to take inspiration from them. But too often this turns into us feeling lacking …Continue reading»
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