Change is part of life.
Loss is part of life.
Both of these can be hard to bear. But we can resist them and suffer, or we can realise that they’re part of living a full and rich life.
A transition of any kind will bring up grief. Even if you want to be moving onto something new, you can still feel sadness around what you’re leaving behind.
Sadness will help you to let go and to honour all that you’ve had.
We need to honour any endings or anything we’re losing, fully. In whichever ways we choose. They’re ours to keep and to cherish.
But we can also get curious, and excited about what’s coming next. We can make space for it all.
With every ending comes a new beginning.
What are you losing? And what will you gain? What might you have have instead?
Look for the positives and new potential as well as grieving for the old.
Acknowledge all you’ve lost. Embrace everything you’ve still got and get ready to welcome in new possibilities.
Know that everything happens at the right time.
How do you know that you don’t still need something? Because you don’t have it! How do you know that something wasn’t supposed to be different? Because it wasn’t!
Trust that even if you don’t get what you want, you are getting what you need. What you require to live the life you were meant to live.
Trust the process.
Nothing changes without some growing pains, so be prepared for that. Know that it means you’re growing and expanding into something greater.
We can step outside ourselves and observe what’s happening in our lives like we’re watching a movie. Would you really want it to be a boring one?
If something is happening that’s out of our control we have two choices. To think it shouldn’t be happening, to resist it and to panic. Or to know that for some reason it’s required. For some reason it’s for our highest good and that all will become clear. We can then move forward in peace.
It’s going to happen anyway, but we get to choose how we experience it.
So try becoming fascinated by what’s happening. ‘I didn’t see that coming. This isn’t what I imagined or wanted. But how interesting that I’m getting this instead! I wonder what will happen next.’
Rather than worrying about the future we can get curious about it. We can see all the possibilities. We can realise there is likely more to come than we could ever possibly imagine.
So why not enjoy the ride? Embrace the journey? Enjoy this movie to the full?
See the fun and the lightness this can bring, even in the hardest of times.
From the explorer’s perspective life can suddenly feel very exciting.