Before we embark on anything new, it’s useful to first clear out the old. We need to let go of anything that’s taking up space and no longer serving us.
This may include actual stuff, relationships, old ideas or beliefs. As well as resentments, grudges or regrets. We may need to let go of the idea that things should look or feel a certain way. Of pretending, beating ourselves up or judging ourselves and others.
We hold onto things for a variety of reasons. Often out of fear.
What do you need to let go of? What might be outdated, feeling heavy or weighing you down?
If any areas of your life are feeling stagnant you can choose to clear them out. Letting go of the old, rejuvenating and staying open to the new.
Sometimes we don’t want to let go of the old and we don’t want to move on. Sometimes we cling to things that might be past their best or that are no longer good for us. It can feel easier to stick with the familiar, even if it’s not what we really want.
When we start thinking about letting go sadness can arise. This is a natural and healthy response that can help you let go of the things you no longer need, so sink into that feeling as much as possible. It can be scary to let go, especially of things that have been in our lives for some time. But not letting go means we carry those weights with us. So try releasing even one or two things and notice how much lighter you feel.
If something is hard to let go of, it can be helpful to remember that you don’t have to ‘lose’ the thing if you don’t want to. It can stay with you, to the extent you choose. But maybe you can let go of the way you’re currently holding it. Maybe you can relax your grip, so you aren’t creating tension by holding yourself so tightly.
Often we carry a lot of tension without even realising it. When we tune into our bodies it can be surprising to notice what’s there. Over time chronic tension leads to pain so all the better if we can release it before it does.
Try doing a body scan to notice where you might be holding tension. Relax your face, your jaw, your shoulders, your stomach, your pelvic floor and see what you notice. Try repeating the words ‘let go’ silently to yourself as you breathe in an out. Ask yourself how else you can relieve this tension. What would help you to let go?
We always have a choice in what we hold onto. Some things we’ll definitely want to keep and we’ll want to hold them close. But try to relax your grip even then. Allow things to move to you and around you freely, trusting that the right ones will stick. Notice how different – maybe scary at first – it might be to do this, but in the end how much lighter and more relaxed you’ll feel.
Autumn is the perfect time for letting go. It’s a fresh page. The trees will be shedding their leaves. What if anything, do you want to shed? Where can you make yourself feel lighter? And what can you let go of in order to make space for more of the things you do want in your life?
The more relaxed you are and the more space you clear, the more you open yourself up for the good stuff to flow in.
So don’t hold onto anything that doesn’t bring you joy. You deserve more. We all do.
Let go of the things that are holding you back, weighing you down and keeping you small. Notice all the energy this releases.
Free yourself and watch a world of new possibilities appear.
With love,
Kelly x