I feel very fortunate in my life to have been given a series of second chances. What a gift, when you think about it – a second chance. I can see that this can be applied pretty much anywhere. Anything you would like to be different – you have the opportunity to begin again right now. Every moment brings the opportunity for a fresh slate. We only carry the past with us if we choose to. It only exists now as a memory. The present moment is brand new and uncontaminated. We can use these fresh slates and second chances …Continue reading»
A happiness that isn’t dependent on anything
I was lucky enough to go to a practitioner conference in California recently and it was an amazing experience. There were so many things I took away from it, which I’ll be sharing here on the blog over the coming weeks and months. But the thing I wanted to start with, because it struck me most, was the capacity we all have to be happy for no reason. Until the conference I had never come across a group of people who seemed to have such a genuine peace and joy in their lives, which came from the inside. Many of …Continue reading»
What did you love to do back then?
What did you love to do as a child? What were you naturally drawn to? What were you good at? What could you spend hours doing without getting bored, when left to your own devices? What really brought you joy? Was there any theme? Or particular way of doing things that may have been different to how other people did them? Did you combine anything? It’s really great to think about this and to be reminded of what we loved before we started trying to fit in, or doing anything we thought we should. Before we or anybody else could …Continue reading»
What would you do if you didn’t need to do anything at all?
I’ve been wondering more and more, and working with clients more and more, around what they would do if they didn’t need to do anything at all. As if their every need was already met and taken care of. So often we grow up to believe that our value is dictated by what we do, and our self-worth is tied up in how much we achieve. But once we come to realise that every single one of us is valuable simply because we exist, things start to look quite different. Everyone generally thinks that a baby is valuable, yet they …Continue reading»
What’s already going well?
Hello, and a very happy new year. I hope you had a great break over Christmas. I’m happy to be back and for my first post of 2019, I just wanted to invite you to pause and notice what’s going well in your life. I see the tendency in myself and others at the start of a new year to think about any changes we might want to make, and any intentions we’d like to set. It’s the perfect time to do this. The blank slate of a new year can be a great time for a fresh start on …Continue reading»
Don’t wait to be happy
How often do we wait to be happy? How often do we think that all will be well once this or that is sorted? How often do we get caught up in striving for the next thing, or in reaching a certain benchmark, before we can relax or enjoy ourselves? The truth is there will always be something to worry about. There will always be things that don’t seem ideal, or something else to attain. Which may seem depressing, but actually accepting this can provide us with a great deal of freedom. We can decide to be happy anyway. Whilst …Continue reading»
Building a house
I’m just coming to the end of a very big project: building my own house. Well, not with my own bare hands, but having a house built 🙂 This isn’t something I ever imagined myself doing, and it’s been quite the adventure. It took eighteen months to get the planning and to find a builder who could work within my budget, and the last nine months to actually have the house built. I’m just coming into the final couple of weeks now. It’s been quite incredible to see it all come to fruition, and to be starting a new chapter. I’ve …Continue reading»
The rocking chair test
There is an exercise in coaching called the rocking chair test. Basically, this involves imagining yourself when you’re older, sat in a rocking chair, looking back over your life. It suggests that you really visualise this and get into the feeling state of how you would want to feel. So, this post is shorter than normal but I’m inviting you to do just that. It seems like it can be a really powerful exercise in terms of helping people live by their values, and head where they want to go. Of course there are so many things that are out …Continue reading»
How good will you allow yourself to have it?
How good will you allow yourself to have it? How happy will you allow yourself to be? How much can you enjoy being you? How excited can you be about your life? It’s all up to you. We all get to decide, what we’ll accept and what we’ll settle for. Sometimes we upper limit. When things start going really well for us, we start worrying about what could go wrong, or unconsciously do something to bring ourselves back down to a more familiar level of happiness. So we need to be mindful of this, and consciously expand our tolerance for …Continue reading»
Making it count
Hello, and happy new year 🙂 Once again we have a blank slate. A new year for us to work with, to enjoy and to mould. A new year to change old patterns, to do things differently and to follow our dreams. So what might that mean for you? What would you like to be different this year, and what would you like to create? How would you like to feel? For me it’s about love and gratitude. Seemingly very simplistic, but something I seem to return to again and again. If we’re feeling love, and we’re feeling grateful, then …Continue reading»
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