It can be so tempting to try and anticipate the future. We can spend so much time in our heads worrying, imagining things that may or may not come and trying to figure out the best way to go. But we can’t live for tomorrow. We have to live for today. We can’t possibly know the future. So we’re wasting our time trying to work out what we might want and feel then. It’s impossible! We can only follow what feels right in the moment. You can’t have regrets if you know that you always followed what felt right at …Continue reading»
Trust
Why do we feel the need to control everything? Ourselves, our plans, other people, the way things turn out. We try to control things to prevent anxiety and to make ourselves feel safe. But control of the outside world is an illusion. It’s exhausting. And it’s never ending. The degree to which we try to control is the degree to which we don’t trust. But it’s actually often safer to let go, than it is to cling on – attempting to control. Notice the tension in your body when you’re trying to control things. And notice the relaxation when you …Continue reading»
Staying in your own lane
It’s so easy to get caught up in what we think we should be doing. In what’s ‘normal’ or expected. It’s so easy to think we’re lagging behind, left out or not as successful or fulfilled as others. When we compare we lose confidence and can start to panic. We start thinking maybe something is wrong with us or that we’re not where we’re meant to be. We can become really confused and paralysed by comparison. It’s great to see what other people are doing and to take inspiration from them. But too often this turns into us feeling lacking …Continue reading»
Courage
Sometimes life asks us to be brave. Sometimes our greatest strength lies in no longer defending ourselves. From the things we’re scared of. From taking risks. It’s so easy to be scared of everything. Of making the wrong decisions. Of failing. Or making mistakes. But in trying to protect ourselves, by trying to get everything right and being so afraid of getting things wrong, we’re not really living. We become paralysed. The truth is we’ll never get rid of fear. And we’ll always make mistakes. We’re human. But we can choose to live in spite of that and to cultivate …Continue reading»
What do you need to let go of?
Before we embark on anything new, it’s useful to first clear out the old. We need to let go of anything that’s taking up space and no longer serving us. This may include actual stuff, relationships, old ideas or beliefs. As well as resentments, grudges or regrets. We may need to let go of the idea that things should look or feel a certain way. Of pretending, beating ourselves up or judging ourselves and others. We hold onto things for a variety of reasons. Often out of fear. What do you need to let go of? What might be outdated, …Continue reading»