It’s so easy to get caught up in what we think we should be doing. In what’s ‘normal’ or expected. It’s so easy to think we’re lagging behind, left out or not as successful or fulfilled as others.
When we compare we lose confidence and can start to panic. We start thinking maybe something is wrong with us or that we’re not where we’re meant to be. We can become really confused and paralysed by comparison.
It’s great to see what other people are doing and to take inspiration from them. But too often this turns into us feeling lacking in ourselves.
We compare other people’s outsides and what they portray to the world, with our own insides. We make assumptions. We envy others. But would we really swap? If that meant swapping who we are, our loved ones and everything else we have in our lives?
It’s so easy to look at other people and to wish we were the same, without really knowing what their lives feel like. You never really know what’s going on behind the scenes. You only ever see part of the picture.
The more you look around at what other people are doing, the less you’ll be moving towards your own dreams. The less you’ll be tuning into what really feels right for you. Looking around will slow you down and distract you from running your own race.
Come back to your life and stay in your own lane instead. Put all of your energies into that and to finding your own rhythm.
If nobody else was doing anything at all, what would be the things you’d still want to do? And if nobody else could have an opinion – good or bad – on what you did, who would you be?
This life is YOURS. Mould it. Make it your own. Don’t waste your time counting other people’s blessings when you could be counting your own.
Take inspiration from others, sure. But don’t dwell there.
There is only one of you. Nobody can do you better. So live and create a life that’s uniquely yours. Would you really want it to be a poor imitation of somebody else’s?
You don’t have to follow the pack. You don’t have to do what’s expected. It’s all your choice. How you respond, how you live, what you pursue, who you’re being. Feel the freedom in this.
Don’t panic about being left behind. The truth is you’re exactly where you’re meant to be. And how do you know that? Because it’s where you are!
Don’t panic about missing out either. The only time you’re missing out is when you mentally go into other people’s business. Dwelling in what others are up to, what they’re achieving or experiencing. Then you miss out, because nobody is in your space, enjoying what you have. Nobody is present. Give yourself the gift of fully inhabiting your own life.
Celebrate the lives and achievements of others. Just don’t forget to do the same with your own.
Cherish all that you’ve been given and all you’ve worked to create. Be proud of yourself and who you are.
Love yourself and your own life all out. Enjoy being you. Because if you don’t, who will?