Hello, and wishing you a very happy new year 🙂
It’s a time when many of us will want to be embracing a fresh slate, and making resolutions.
For me what it really comes down to is how we most want to feel, and what we’d like to be experiencing more of.
This is really good news because the power is within each of us to feel more of whatever it is we want to feel.
I’d like my first post of 2017 to be about treating ourselves the way we’d ideally like others to treat us, and consequently feeling how we want to feel.
This has been on my mind a lot in recent months and it seems relevant to everyone, as no matter what we have going on around us, we get to choose how we’re treating ourselves throughout it.
Often we hear that we should treat others as we’d like to be treated ourselves. This is perfect. But what about treating ourselves this way as well? So that it can be mirrored back.
We may like to be treated in all sorts of ways. Perhaps we want to feel cherished, listened to, understood. Maybe we’d like to feel loved, considered, seen or appreciated?
Whatever it might be we can check in to see if we’re treating ourselves in these ways, and therefore feeling how we want to feel.
Are you making time for yourself? Are you available to you?
Are you accepting of yourself?
Do you love and appreciate yourself?
Do you really listen to you, and what you most want and need?
Anytime we feel we aren’t being treated well or receiving what we want, we can gain really helpful feedback and information. Because what’s happening out there is a mirror of what’s happening in here. So it can help us to see where we need to give ourselves a boost in treating ourselves in certain ways, and aligning with certain energies.
Feeling lack? Align internally with abundance. What does abundance feel like in your body?
Want to feel more peace? Align to the feeling of peaceful within you.
So often we wait for things to shift on the outside so that we can feel more of something. But we have this the wrong way around.
We need to make those shifts on the inside first, so that the outside can shift to reflect it. Peace for example is a vibration we feel, so it is available to us at any time, regardless of what’s happening around us. It’s available for us to tune into now.
Often when we don’t feel a certain way, instead of going inward, we look to other things or people to make us feel that way.
If we don’t love ourselves, we look to someone else to tell us that they do.
If we don’t believe we’re worthy, often a deep unconscious level, we will look to others to confirm that we are.
If we don’t accept ourselves, we will long for others to accept us.
The problem with this is that we will often look to others who don’t love and accept themselves either, to do it for us. At first this can seem like a win-win situation; being able to fill each other up and meeting each other’s needs. But this can become very transactional, and we become reliant on something outside of ourselves for love, and anything else we crave.
The truth is that nobody can truly love and accept you, if they aren’t able to do it for themselves first. Because they aren’t connected to the love within them.
So the love within you has to be the first place to go. This is your foundation of love. Of course it feels wonderful to have that love reflected back from others as well, we all want that, but this is a bonus. Love in this case becomes a choice and a desire, a very nice to have, rather than a need.
The good news is you can treat yourself with as much love, appreciation and respect as you like. You can tap into and generate as much of what you want to feel within your own body. You then have it available not only within you, but also to share with others.
This can be an ongoing practice, but the more you build your own foundation of love, the more your beliefs about yourself will start to change. When this happens you will move differently in the world, meaning the world around you can’t help but shift to reflect that.