What appears in your top 10? Of your personal inadequacies, insecurities or thoughts about other people and how they treat you.
Some common examples include:
I’m not good enough
I’m not as good as her/them
I’m not attractive enough
I’m not clever enough
I’m not confident enough
I’m too old
It’s too late for me
I’m too fat
I’m too thin
I’m too insecure
I’m too sensitive
There’s something wrong with me
They’re judging me
They’re making a fool of me
You can’t trust anyone
I’m such an idiot
I’m so stupid
I can’t cope with this
This always happens to me
I’m not …fill in the blank…enough
I’m too…fill in the blank…
I’ll never be…fill in the blank…
Other people always…fill in the blank…
We all have them. Our own individual top 10 hits! Those familiar tunes, playing over and over again in our minds.
These thoughts are so familiar to us, because we’ve thought them so often, that they can seem very real. They have turned into beliefs, and so we really believe that they’re true.
But with a new-found awareness we can step back and see them for what they are. Just. Thought.
Habitual, repetitive thoughts that we innocently buy into again and again, which cause us to suffer.
But we have a new choice once we have this awareness. We can see the truth. Or at least we can start to question ‘What if these thoughts really are meaningless?’ ‘What if they mean a lot less than I thought?’ ‘What if they’re not really who I am after all?’
‘What if they’re not worth paying attention to?’
Byron Katie asks, ‘Who would I be without this thought?’ Or ‘Without my story?’
These are such powerful questions.
Who would you be without the stories that your top 10 hits offer you over and over again?
And what space would be left for new thoughts and fresh possibilities to arise?