There is an exercise in coaching called the rocking chair test. Basically, this involves imagining yourself when you’re older, sat in a rocking chair, looking back over your life. It suggests that you really visualise this and get into the feeling state of how you would want to feel. So, this post is shorter than normal but I’m inviting you to do just that. It seems like it can be a really powerful exercise in terms of helping people live by their values, and head where they want to go. Of course there are so many things that are out …Continue reading»
How good will you allow yourself to have it?
How good will you allow yourself to have it? How happy will you allow yourself to be? How much can you enjoy being you? How excited can you be about your life? It’s all up to you. We all get to decide, what we’ll accept and what we’ll settle for. Sometimes we upper limit. When things start going really well for us, we start worrying about what could go wrong, or unconsciously do something to bring ourselves back down to a more familiar level of happiness. So we need to be mindful of this, and consciously expand our tolerance for …Continue reading»
Your best self
What helps you be your best self? And what takes you further away from it? Who is your best self? What are they like? Can you describe them? Can you feel how good it feels to be them? We all have many positive qualities and attributes. Sometimes these are hard to see for ourselves, but we may get them reflected back from others. We naturally focus on our flaws and shortcomings, rather than on the things that are good about us. Nobody wants to be arrogant or big headed, and nobody wants to be seen as full of themselves. So …Continue reading»
Making it count
Hello, and happy new year 🙂 Once again we have a blank slate. A new year for us to work with, to enjoy and to mould. A new year to change old patterns, to do things differently and to follow our dreams. So what might that mean for you? What would you like to be different this year, and what would you like to create? How would you like to feel? For me it’s about love and gratitude. Seemingly very simplistic, but something I seem to return to again and again. If we’re feeling love, and we’re feeling grateful, then …Continue reading»
Bravery
In my final post of the year, I’d love to talk about bravery. Bravery means different things to different people. What does it mean to you? Bravery can mean putting ourselves out there, even when we feel really unsure or shaky. It can mean speaking up even when we’re not sure anyone else will agree, or understand. It can mean asking for help or support, when there are no guarantees of being met in that request. It can mean showing the most vulnerable parts of ourselves, and risking rejection or ridicule. It can mean battling through something major, something seen …Continue reading»
Deep contentment
Sometimes we have to go through the really hard stuff, to get to the good stuff. Sometimes when we’re going through the hard stuff, it can be hard to see the wood for the trees. We wonder if it’ll ever be worth it. We question ourselves and what we’re doing. We can be full of doubts and uncertainty. Things can feel shaky and unsettling. But if we can persist, if we can trust and if we can stay the course, more often than not there will be treasure on the other side. Treasure that will seem all the sweeter, because …Continue reading»
Self-compassion
Are you concentrating on what you like and love about yourself, or on what you don’t like? Are you focusing on your flaws and beating yourself up? Are you being critical and harsh with yourself? When we’re unkind in this way we can become low and depressed, and we can start to feel worthless. We look for anything and anyone to make that feel better. When what we’re really looking for is gentleness, understanding and compassion. We can be so harsh with ourselves, when we could be kind. We can be much, much harsher with ourselves than we would be …Continue reading»
Dating yourself
I was having a conversation in a coaching session last month, which the other person is happy for me to share here. They were talking about a lack of confidence, and wanting and needing love and attention from their partner. How they wanted their partner to recognise and voice all of the special things they saw in them, and to be clear that they would continue choosing them, even if other women were really beautiful or attractive in other ways. Which got us thinking about how she could give these things to herself. About how she could affirm herself, and …Continue reading»
Your internal navigation system
It’s so easy to go around and round in circles when we look outside ourselves for answers. We can spend hours searching online, consulting the opinions of various friends or loved ones, looking for advice or reassurance, and yet end up more confused than ever. Everybody else will give you an opinion that’s based on their own individual life experience. Everybody else will be looking through their own lens, with their own hopes and fears. Of course at times we’ll want to ask for the opinion of someone we value or respect. We’ll really appreciate their wisdom, or take on …Continue reading»
Creatively envisioning your life
What do you imagine for your life? Do you have a vision? Are there things you dream of, that you haven’t yet achieved? What do you think is possible? What will you allow yourself to believe is possible? There’s a theory of motivation in psychology called the Theory of Possible Selves. This theory tells us that there are all kinds of possible selves that we can imagine, both desired and feared. The idea is that working towards a desired possible self can be very motivating. Yet sometimes we’re limited by our imaginations. We may not believe it’s possible to get …Continue reading»
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