As the last of my divorce proceedings draw to a close there has been a lot to let go of. The beginning of this year was not something I would have wished to experience. But I am grateful for the journey for so many reasons. I have learnt more this year about love and relationships than in the last 34 years put together! I’m so grateful for the love that has surrounded me. For the sisters and family that have stood by my side. For the love inside me that has always been there, just waiting to be tapped into …Continue reading»
When in doubt come back to your centre
We all have a centre within us. Whenever we feel lost or unsure of something we can lose contact with that centre. We become externally focussed and can end up drifting around and feeling like we’re being pulled from pillar to post, or in several different directions. We can feel scattered, panicky or adrift in the mental plane. But the heart can be a great resting place for the mind. Whenever we feel lost or unsure of anything we can drop down from our heads into our hearts. We can ground and centre. This can be one of the most …Continue reading»
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is about freedom. For the person who harmed you yes, but also for you. Because without forgiveness you can’t find peace. Forgiveness isn’t about letting people off the hook. It isn’t about not having boundaries and letting people treat you badly, with no reckoning or without letting them know the hurt they caused. But it is about freeing yourself from an endless cycle of drama that can come from pure reaction. It’s about freeing yourself from someone or something else, which your anger or hatred would otherwise keep you tied to. It can be hard to forgive because it …Continue reading»
Nothing is ever wasted
Everything we do and everything that happens allows us to grow if we’ll let it. Sometimes it’s easy to think that we should be further forward than we are – that we should have done things differently and made different choices. But there are never really any wrong decisions. Every path you took, decision you made and experience you’ve had got you exactly where you are today. Nobody else has the same life experience as you have. Nobody else has learnt and grown in exactly the way you were meant to. When there are bumps in the road it can be …Continue reading»
Your friendship is a gift
Your friendship is a gift. You will never know how much. You are like a beacon of light on a very dark night. You are unwavering and steadfast in your support. You are loyal beyond words and any doubt. You don’t know how precious that is to me. To know you are there, to know that you care. To know that you see me, that you value me, that you know who I am. To know I can be myself with you – my real self – without fear of judgment or rejection. To see your strength; to know that …Continue reading»
It’s an inside job
Things falling apart in any area of our lives can feel very scary and threatening, and all the more if it happens in more than one place at once. We all want to be able to define ourselves by certain things. It’s important to feel like we have an identity and to know who we are. We look to relationships, careers and other things outside of ourselves to help define us. We label ourselves. Depending on how these things are going we tend to feel better or worse. We look to these things as a measure of our self-worth. Other people …Continue reading»
The power to love
Love is all that matters, really. We feel lucky if we experience great love in our lives. But really that love is within us. I’ve always believed in the best kind of love stories. And I still do. These can be love stories and relationships of any kind. Sometimes things don’t work out how we want them to. Sometimes we’re disappointed. But nobody can take away our spirit or our power to love. That is ours, to keep. Love is what makes the world go round. It’s yours to give. You get to choose how and where you share it. …Continue reading»
The messy middle
I’m in the process of getting my website and associated things changed over to Kelly Burns, so I appreciate your patience as I do that. Some things are still in my old name, some things in the new. Rather than it being one smooth transition it’s been a bit more complicated than I’d hoped. Which got me thinking this is the way it goes with most transitions. Or with life in general! It isn’t always as smooth or straightforward as we would like. Things are often messier than we might choose. There are more things to consider than we may …Continue reading»
Your body is a temple and a guide
Whenever you’re feeling lost, confused or overwhelmed come back to your body. It knows the way. Sometimes there are just too many words. We need to verbally process things so that we can understand and make sense of anything that’s happening. But there can also be too much talking, too much noise. Too much input. We need to balance that with time to go inward, with time for quiet and peaceful reflection – so that we can get out of our heads and into our bodies. We need to turn our focus away from other people, from out there and …Continue reading»
6 months left to live
It does no harm to remember that life is short. It may seem morbid but the only guarantee in this life is that our lives will come to an end. We’re all heading in the same direction, we just don’t know when our individual journeys will end. Which is something most of us naturally prefer not to think about. Sometimes it’s brought frighteningly into focus, other times it may fade into the background. But actually keeping this at the forefront of our minds can make a great difference to how we live. To making sure that we’re living on purpose, …Continue reading»