The more ‘you’ that you become and can express, the more you’ll attract the right people. We all want to fit in and please others. We all want to belong and to feel accepted and seen; we’re wired for it. But sometimes the more we become who we really are, the less we seem to fit in. Or the less we seem to fit in around certain people or in certain situations. We can feel as if we have to bend or be different to fit in with the pack; to pretend we like things that we don’t or to …Continue reading»
What do you really want?
Sounds like a simple question, right? But often we don’t take the time to get really clear on what it is we do want. We can be so busy working, ploughing full steam ahead or taking care of other people’s needs that we don’t stop to ask this question. Sometimes we are scared to. We don’t think it’s realistic or don’t believe we deserve what we really want. But it’s a great thing to ask and to tune into. So often we limit ourselves by what we think is possible. Fear holds us back. But what would you do if you weren’t …Continue reading»
Your body is a temple and a guide
Whenever you’re feeling lost, confused or overwhelmed come back to your body. It knows the way. Sometimes there are just too many words. We need to verbally process things so that we can understand and make sense of anything that’s happening. But there can also be too much talking, too much noise. Too much input. We need to balance that with time to go inward, with time for quiet and peaceful reflection – so that we can get out of our heads and into our bodies. We need to turn our focus away from other people, from out there and …Continue reading»
Filling yourself up
We need to focus our energies on filling ourselves up, from the inside. So often we look to other people or other things to fill us up or to make us happy; to make things better, to take care of things, or to make us feel a certain way. But this is such a losing game, because we can’t control other people or the things outside ourselves. And so at some level we’ll always be fearful, because those things could be taken away. We aren’t the source of the things we want in this case, which understandably makes us feel …Continue reading»
What makes you unique?
Whilst I was away in The Big Apple I got to thinking about what makes each of us unique, and how easy it can be to forget. It’s so good to surround ourselves with people who see our light. Who appreciate us for what we are and all that we bring, because sometimes we forget. We stop valuing ourselves. We get knocked down, life throws us curveballs or we start to forget what makes us special. What others may love and appreciate about us. Things we do naturally that perhaps we don’t even notice. But the truth is we all …Continue reading»
What are you most proud of?
What makes you proud – of yourself, of your relationships, of other achievements? How can you be proud of the investments you make? Having a sense of pride allows us to find purpose and helps us be who we want to be, even during difficult times. Pride is something people seem to look back with at the end of their lives, alongside regret and the things they weren’t so proud of. What they’re most proud of often signals what was most important to them; what they valued the most. So it seems to me that we need to live in …Continue reading»
Let your light shine
Don’t confuse what you do with who you are. Your worth isn’t based on what you do. Your worth is based on who you are, at your core. And who you are at your core is love and light. It’s unchanging and ever-present. We are all the same. We are all love and light. We are just individual expressions of that. So be you. Focus on the light at the centre of your own being. How brightly are you allowing it to shine? How well are you warming the paths of those around you? How well are you removing the …Continue reading»
Which type are you?
Discovering that I was an introvert (INFJ) and an HSP (Highly Sensitive Person) was game changing for me. It seemed to explain so much and now I can understand the way I am without beating myself up for it. I can try and express myself and my needs in a clearer way and start to see some of the things I used to perceive as weaknesses as strengths. If you’d like to find out about your own personality type and traits you can take these tests: http://www.16personalities.com/ http://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ I could talk about this all day long and would love to …Continue reading»
Staying in your own lane
It’s so easy to get caught up in what we think we should be doing. In what’s ‘normal’ or expected. It’s so easy to think we’re lagging behind, left out or not as successful or fulfilled as others. When we compare we lose confidence and can start to panic. We start thinking maybe something is wrong with us or that we’re not where we’re meant to be. We can become really confused and paralysed by comparison. It’s great to see what other people are doing and to take inspiration from them. But too often this turns into us feeling lacking …Continue reading»