I started a Masters in Psychology recently and I’m hoping I’ll have plenty more to share about this in future blog posts. Meanwhile life is busier than it’s been for a while and I’m settling into a new routine. It’s been brilliant to have a new focus, to meet new people and to broaden my horizons. That energy of something new. Inspiration. Possibility. Joy. Something sparked. An energy of openness and excitement. Optimism. Contentment. It’s also got me thinking about everything I’ve learnt over the last 9 years and how to bring that in to what I’m doing now. I’ve …Continue reading»
Moving on
As the last of my divorce proceedings draw to a close there has been a lot to let go of. The beginning of this year was not something I would have wished to experience. But I am grateful for the journey for so many reasons. I have learnt more this year about love and relationships than in the last 34 years put together! I’m so grateful for the love that has surrounded me. For the sisters and family that have stood by my side. For the love inside me that has always been there, just waiting to be tapped into …Continue reading»
Stinking thinking and gratitude
Our experience of life comes back to how grateful we are. Are you actually present in your life, enough to enjoy it right now? We can get so caught up in striving for things we want to achieve or move towards. Or we think we’ll be happy once we’ve got x, y or z. If only a certain thing would happen we’d be ok. If only a certain thing hadn’t happened we’d be ok. We can waste years living with this kind of thinking. But our thinking is a choice. We will always have a tendency to focus on the …Continue reading»
When in doubt come back to your centre
We all have a centre within us. Whenever we feel lost or unsure of something we can lose contact with that centre. We become externally focussed and can end up drifting around and feeling like we’re being pulled from pillar to post, or in several different directions. We can feel scattered, panicky or adrift in the mental plane. But the heart can be a great resting place for the mind. Whenever we feel lost or unsure of anything we can drop down from our heads into our hearts. We can ground and centre. This can be one of the most …Continue reading»
Time to shake things up
Sometimes we feel the urge to shake things up. Sometimes we need to shake things up so that we don’t stagnate. We can be wise to follow whatever makes us feel the most free. How many things do we do because we think we should or because we have to? How many things do we put pressure on ourselves to do, even though nobody is forcing us to? It can be really good to take a look at all of the things like this in our lives, and to look at any changes we want to make. It can be …Continue reading»
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is about freedom. For the person who harmed you yes, but also for you. Because without forgiveness you can’t find peace. Forgiveness isn’t about letting people off the hook. It isn’t about not having boundaries and letting people treat you badly, with no reckoning or without letting them know the hurt they caused. But it is about freeing yourself from an endless cycle of drama that can come from pure reaction. It’s about freeing yourself from someone or something else, which your anger or hatred would otherwise keep you tied to. It can be hard to forgive because it …Continue reading»
Being more of who you are
The more ‘you’ that you become and can express, the more you’ll attract the right people. We all want to fit in and please others. We all want to belong and to feel accepted and seen; we’re wired for it. But sometimes the more we become who we really are, the less we seem to fit in. Or the less we seem to fit in around certain people or in certain situations. We can feel as if we have to bend or be different to fit in with the pack; to pretend we like things that we don’t or to …Continue reading»
Signals and patterns
We all have core patterns that hold us up and keep us stuck. It can be really helpful to start recognising what these are, so we don’t get caught in cycles where we unintentionally self-harm and limit our joy. Some of my core patterns include piling the pressure on, being too much in my head and too rigid in my thinking, over-analysing, having huge expectations of myself, and taking things too seriously. This is not a fun way to live! So it can be really helpful to recognise when we’re falling into some of these patterns. We all have them, …Continue reading»
The safe choice isn’t always the right choice
The safe choice isn’t always the right choice. Sometimes the right choice is the thing we fear the most. Avoiding unhappiness isn’t the route to happiness. Often we make choices out of fear. We think we’re keeping ourselves safe by choosing the safe option. But sometimes we’re actually closing ourselves off from life, and from true joy. We try to protect ourselves, which can be helpful and is a natural instinct. But when is this a good thing and when does it go too far? Sometimes we try so hard to protect ourselves that we end up causing ourselves more …Continue reading»
What do you really want?
Sounds like a simple question, right? But often we don’t take the time to get really clear on what it is we do want. We can be so busy working, ploughing full steam ahead or taking care of other people’s needs that we don’t stop to ask this question. Sometimes we are scared to. We don’t think it’s realistic or don’t believe we deserve what we really want. But it’s a great thing to ask and to tune into. So often we limit ourselves by what we think is possible. Fear holds us back. But what would you do if you weren’t …Continue reading»
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